Networking Tips: How to React When Someone Offends You

How to React When Someone Offends You

– I was negotiating a deal with a door to door sales company.  I thought we were close on terms and was looking forward to getting the deal done.  This company had wanted Lance Conrad and I to consult for them.  When the offer came in, it was offensive from our perspective.  It wasn’t even in the ballpark of what we discussed.  At first, I felt undervalued by the offer and wanted to write a belittling email back.   As I thought about it rationally, I came to the conclusion that if I were to respond in such a way, nothing good would come out of it.  I have learned to always try to take the emotion out of it and ask myself how can I turn this into a win-win situation?

I decided to respond back bluntly, but very respectfully.  I clearly communicated what I felt but in a way that wasn’t offensive.  I gave my perspective, but also let them know that if things didn’t work out, maybe we could help each other down the road.  You should ALWAYS leave the door open and think long term when you are networking. Do NOT burn your bridges!

 

Had I sent the initial reactive and negative email I wanted to send, a future partnership would have never been formed.  Instead, we worked out our differences and provided value for each other, a positive outcome to something that easily could have ended differently.  It is hard to send an email that isn’t based on emotion but here are 4 tips that will help you.

4 TIPS

  1. Take the emotion out of it as much as possible and clearly communicate your INTENTIONS.
  2. When you are upset, the best thing to do is to wait a day to respond.
  3. Have a trusted friend look over your email before you send it.
  4. If you can, I would always have a conversation rather than an email.  When you do have this conversation, watch your tone and always make sure you see things from the other party’s perspective.  Letting them know you understand where they are coming from goes a long way.  You can still disagree with them while understanding where they are coming from.

Another insight that I have learned is that those who are weak where you are strong will offend you the most!  If you are a people person who is very thoughtful and the other person is not, then they will typically offend you more often than someone who is a people person.  We see the world through our perspective.  We expect others to be strong where we are strong because from our perspective it is just plain common sense. Learn to notice and appreciate the differences in others, and it will become much easier to network and build strong and valuable relationships that can last for years to come.

Network Marketers can learn a whole lot from pre-arranged marriages

Network Marketers can learn a whole lot from pre-arranged marriages

 

DISCLAIMER to my wife:  Don’t make me sleep on the couch!  I am glad our marriage wasn’t arranged. After hearing people joke about arranged marriages for years, I decided that I wanted to learn more about them for myself.  As I studied the concept, here is what I discovered.

 

Many different studies have shown that pre-arranged marriages work out better than traditional marriages.  How is this possible!?  The simple lesson is that relationships are work.  If you go into a relationship looking at it as work rather than just an emotion, you will have much more success.  For example, many people believe in love at first sight.  Love is an emotion.  Emotions are roller coasters.  We have our good days and bad days.  Some of us have our good years and our bad years.  When a marriage is based on just our emotions, it gives us some sort of fantasy that love isn’t earned, nor is it work.  We love what we serve.  In pre-arranged marriages, couples go into the relationship earning each other’s love with realistic expectations.

 

In networking, you need to understand this principle.  It is work.  You will have times where you won’t feel like networking.  You will have friendships or associations that annoy you.  That is normal, but in order to make those relationships work out for the long term, you will need to work!

 

Enjoy the Journey

 

I was told by good mentors that it would take me 7 years to fully understand the industry of network marketing. Every year, just when I think I finally get all the dynamics, I learn a new skill.  I know now that 7 years gives you a great base to be in the top 1%, but we are always learning.  This is a profession to “Go Pro,” as Eric Worre says.  It is hard enough to make anything work when you are fully committed, but it’s impossible to make anything work when you are just giving it a try.  Make the commitment to learn the skills of networking, realize that it takes time and practice, and that commitment will pay for itself thousands of times over.

 

Obviously, an important part of network marketing is the actual networking itself. So, who do you network with?  Everyone you can.  Treat everyone with respect and try and connect with everyone you meet. There are so many ways you can do this.  Decide to do a random act of kindness for a friend or even a complete stranger.  Ask a friend out to lunch and do some catching up.  Shoot out a text to get an update on something going on in your friend’s life.  Texting is a great start to maintaining relationships and has helped me stay in contact with others.  Of course, you can’t just rely on a text.  You will need to go above and beyond that, but texting is a good platform that helps you stay connected.

 

There are over 7 billion people on planet earth.  Each one of those people have unique stories, ideas, and relationships.  If you aren’t happy with who you are surrounded with, or if you want to find more people to network with, put your mind to it and make it happen!   The best Networkers aren’t always the best recruiters, but the best Networkers are always great at working a circle of influence.  It has also been said that if you know 7 people, you know the entire world.  The best Networkers know with 100% certainty they can work with just about anyone willing and create a massive organization.