DREAMS by Rob Sperry

Dreams…………..
The importance of them.  The adversity and challenges they bring. I will give insight on how others achieved their dreams which will relate to us on how we can achieve our dreams and goals.
Before we really get started the question you should ask yourself is, What are you willing to sacrifice or endure in order to live your dream life??  The fact is, no matter how easily your purpose or your “why” in the business comes to you, you will have to make sacrifices in order to achieve it.

It seems that sometime in our early 20’s our dreams begin to leave.  We begin to settle for less and stop pursuing our dreams.  It seems that sometime in our early 20’s we begin to accept the fact that we may not reach those lofty goals we once had.  By the time we reach our mid 30’s it seems that most people have almost totally lost their dreams and by  age 50 people completely stop dreaming.  You see when we are young we typically know how to dream but we don’t know how to work.  As we get older we know how to work but we forget how to dream.

In Network Marketing there is what’s called the Honeymoon stage and then the Sophomore blues.
When you start out in this business you are on what’s called the honeymoon.  You have all these great expectations and all of these big goals.  You are so excited.  For many that dream leaves real quick with the first no and for others it takes a few months.  Anyone who has been married knows that when you get married you have all these BIG dreams.  You think you are different and will be the one’s that make it through your marriage.  You also believe you will have less problems than other couples.  You go on your honeymoon and even after the honeymoon you feel like you are on a high.  Whether it is a week, a month or a year eventually you realize that no matter how great your spouse is and no matter how much you love your spouse, marriage is work.  Our business is the same way. Most of us are strong starters but few of us are strong finishers. We get excited about the possibilities of what this business can do for us but soon we find out that we actually have to work.  That this business is NetWORK marketing.  Not NetHOPING or NetWISHING.  You see this business is tough but what business isn’t?  The difference is, in this financial vehicle the journey is well worth the sacrifice.  In the beginning, stages of my business I had to remind myself of that constantly.  If you come to my house you will see a 6 by 4 foot dream board.  I have pictures of several of my family’s dreams.  We have things such as a houseboat in Lake Powell which represent time with friends and family.  Places we want to visit and things we want to do.  We want to do more for helping great causes so we have a picture of that up on the dream board.  My 5-year-old Cade always points out to visitors with full confidence that everything on the dream board are things we will have or places we will visit.  Surround yourself with your future.  Surround yourself with pictures of what this business will bring you.  There is great power in the subconscious mind and pictures help to forward that progress.

Going back to the topic of DREAMS in this business I want to point out another insight. No one realistic has ever accomplished anything great!! Think about that.  Michael Jordan wasn’t realistic when he sought out to be the best basketball player ever.   Man landing on the moon didn’t seem realistic once upon a time.  Even inventions like the TV or internet weren’t realistic.  Someone had to dream.  Someone had to be unrealistic and stretch their minds.
Let’s look at an example
When I started the business my menor pushed my buttons in a good way.  He told me to go for a particular level in the company where on average they make 16 k a year.  Then as I quickly approached that level he told me to go for the next level.  Considering I had no Network Marketing experience and was just working my Network Marketing business part-time that was totally unrealistic.  My first month part-time I had 39 bonus points in the pool (each new person signed up over a certain amount of volume constitutes a bonus point) working the business part-time.  Had someone told me to go for just a lower level in the company(the first leadership position in the company) that’s probably all I would have done.  Thinking and dreaming big is a skill and an art.  Don’t cripple your new people or your organization.  Just because you haven’t accomplished something great doesn’t mean others can’t or won’t.
Here is the key.  These individuals that all think big have also had some down moments in their lives or business.  The difference is when they do have those moments they buck up and go back at it harder.  90% of disappointment comes from unrealistic expectations. So you have to prepare yourself by almost being unreasonably optimistic.  You set a high goal and if you don’t obtain that goal, you don’t make your goals smaller.  You just go back; Work harder and figure out how to be better.  You must be an optimist.  Looking for the best in everyone and every situation.  Now most of us are in this business part-time.  Most of us are looking to make a little extra money and maybe the big examples  don’t relate to you.   They should because you can use the same principles at whatever level you want.  Whether that’s going slow in the business or fast.  You can have the right attitude which will increase your effectiveness.

Here are a couple of insights from John Maxwell’s book “Put Your Dreams To The Test”
The dream is free but the journey isn’t.
At some point you need to make the transition from believer of the dream to buyer of the dream. No dream comes true without someone paying for it.
Dream believers are in abundance and dream buyers are rare.
The moment you declare your dream and try to move toward it, problems begin to surface.  Facing the reality is like having cold water hit you in the face. Not expecting anything like that, many people become discouraged. Some table their dreams, putting them on hold. Others abandon their dreams.

My insight is your “why” has to be big enough and clear enough to fight for your dreams.

Here is some more insight and pay close attention
The price will be higher than you expect.
Never once have I heard the words'” getting to the top was much easier than I anticipated.  Now think about that insight…..  However hard you thought Network Marketing would be it will be harder than that. That should not discourage you because that’s not Network Marketing that is anything great that has ever been accomplished.

Here are a few things you will find
The journey will take longer than you hoped.
The obstacles will be more numerous than you believed.
The disappointments will be greater than you expected.
The lows will be lower than you imagined.
The price will be higher than you anticipated.
John Maxwell

John Maxwell’s list
You must pay the price of these 3 things in order to succeed.
1. PAY THE Price of dealing with criticism from people who matter
2. Pay the price of overcoming your fears
3. Pay the price of hard work
Here are some examples from books that I have read dealing with number 1 which is handling criticism from people who matter
SOMETIMES YOU Shouldn’t LISTEN
Winston Churchill was a young man, his father concluded that Winston
was “unfit for a career in law or politics” because he did so badly in
school.
Barbra Streisand‘s mother told her she wasn’t pretty enough to be an
actress because her voice wasn’t good enough.
Conrad Hilton, who created a business empire with his Hilton hotels,
once overheard his father say to his mother,”Mary, I do not know what
will become of Connie. I’m afraid he’ll never amount to anything”
When Charles Darwin was getting ready to set sail on his 5 year
expedition on the beagle, his father was extremely disappointed. He
thought his son was drifting into a life of sin and idleness.
George Washington‘s mother was a harping, complaining self-centered
women by all accounts. She belittled Washington’s accomplishments and
didn’t show up at either of his presidential inaugurations. She was
always whining that her children neglected her.
— People will criticize you and make fun of your ideas or
actively try to stop you.  Sometimes their goal is to only protect you.  But as we have all learned failure is only a possibility if you stop. If you keep going, a ” failure” is just another learning experience. I look at this way giving up a dream is worse than failing.
So be kind and listen to the criticisms of those you care about but then go live your dreams!  It is your life.  You and only you are responsible for your life.  No one else.
The most important thing is to keep your dreams alive by not just thinking about them but acting upon them.  By moving closer to them each and every single day.  It doesn’t matter how small the steps of progress are, only that you are moving in the right direction.

We all know that the world is FULL of dream crushers.  Think about it.  We all compare.  Some of us do it more than others.  If you are successful than it makes most or many close to you feel unsuccessful.

Les Brown says, “Most of us don’t even go for our dreams because we don’t feel like we deserve it.”

That’s why it is so crucial that you work harder on yourself than you do on your job.  You must become the person to feel that you deserve and expect the success.

Always remember that you don’t need anyone to approve your dream.  Take full responsibility of your life.  Take full responsibility of your dreams.  Don’t make excuses.  Make reasons to fulfill those dreams.  There is a great quote that says, “Avoidance of risk is the greatest risk of all.”

“Always remember there are only two kinds of people in this world — the realists and the dreamers. The realists know where they are going.  The dreamers have already been there.”

Robert Orben.